Re: Bad reference

[Larry Paque <larry@xxxxxxxxx>]

One thing I have always done is to ask the person I would like to use as 
a reference if it is ok with them if I list them.  I do that with the 
hope that people will say no if they won't or are not comfortable giving 
a positive referral.
It's sort of along the lines of a lawyer asking a question of a witness 
- never ask a question to which you do not already know the answer.
If I did that and the person in question still gave me a bad reference, 
I'd feel betrayed.  But then I'd move on and do as others have suggested 
- ask myself if it was there was truth in what was said and learn from 
the experience either way.

Larry Paque
larry@xxxxxxxxx



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> I just had the rug pulled from under me by a ex coworker. I thought would be a 
> good reference he used to work for them.
> They were checking references and I was told they would be wrapping it up and 
> making me an offer before Friday of last week then I hear nothing. I call 
> Tuesday to find I was nixed then found out who it was and what he said. I have 
> it in writing.
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