> From: alan > > For people posting these messages, please remember there's > usually more going on than fits in a couple of lines. I agree, Alan. At the same time, I would also ask that people be a little less thin skinned and a little more willing to accept and even dole out criticism. This is not a self-actualization group. It is not about feeling good about yourself or finding your inner voice. It is not about learning to love yourself. It's not I'm-okay, you're-okay. I would draw the line at personal attacks and name calling. Short of that, just about anything goes. The people who have given me the most grief over the years - Brad, Hans and Rob come immediately to mind <grin> - have also been the ones who have contributed the most to expanding my perspective. Without their insights, I would be a narrower person than I am. This is not to say all discourse must be confrontational. John Carr has consistently provided counterpoint to my opinions and has just as consistently done it in a low-heat, professional manner. Those of us who tend to boil over a little too quickly would do well to learn from him. At the same time, those who regularly complain about the tone of some posts ought to lighten up a little. The flames here are NOTHING compared to the conversations elsewhere on the net - in fact, these mailing lists are far and away the most civilized I participate in. Got to a comp.lang newsgroup and ask a newbie question if you want to see what real flames are all about. In general, if someone questions (or even argues against) WHAT you are doing, take it as the opinion that it is and move on. If it gets you hot under the collar, take a breath or two (or three) before responding. You might even take that time to try and understand WHY it gets you so ticked. For example, when one of Rob's posts really gets under my skin, it's often because there's at least a smattering of truth to what he's saying <grin>. In any event, both sides of this should take a little time to relax. Posts here need not be quite as passionate nor confrontational as I make them - it is, after all, just a mailing list. At the same time, nobody should take anything here personally - it is, after all, just a mailing list. All that said, anybody who wants to jump on my case, feel free to do so. As I said, I often learn the most from the people I agree with the least. Merry Christmas to all! BTW, I got a deck of Buzz Lightyear playing cards and the multi-DVD Fellowship of the Rings set! Thanks, Santa!!!
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